Note Worthy Musings Archives with Brenda Stanton - Asking For Help

Asking For Help

Last week I spoke to the fact that in order to experience true transformation in the Claim Your Worth!® journey, you need to effort the process of allowing yourself to emerge  and becoming aware of where you are off-track and then making the all-important decision to change course.

And in the midst of this process, there will come a time when you realize that no matter how motivated and focused you are, that you will need to allow yourself to reach out for support with someone you trust who has been through what you have and can help you see things more clearly.

And, in the spirit of living what I teach, I am no exception to this.

Just last week I found myself making my own S.O.S call to a dear friend of mine who I knew would be non-judgmental, supportive, and most importantly empathetic with my situation.

The call wasn’t an easy one for me to make however. It required me to be vulnerable, transparent, and extremely humble. Yet I’ve learned first-hand that in the act of being humble and vulnerable, lies your greatest strength.

This friend is someone I know has walked in my shoes and is someone who I know commits to her own consistent growth and evolution each day. She’s someone who doesn’t judge, but understands.

And she’s someone who has efforted the qualities within herself to experience peace in the area of her life where I needed support. She’s the real deal in my book because I know this area didn’t always come natural or easy for her, but I know she was and is committed to the process of allowing her Best Self to emerge every day.

The point of this example is to demonstrate that when you’re making changes in your life and becoming more aware of what is holding you back, it’s imperative to have support around you. And that support must come from people who you know are non-judgmental, have had their own experience in the area where you need help, and have worked to develop those qualities within themselves that allow them to be successful in this arena.

So whether you’re looking for support in your work, your health, your relationships, finances, etc.  look around you to see who is not only successful in the area, but most importantly, who you know that had their own struggles and challenges and worked through them to effort the qualities that you so desire to develop.

Then, take the time to ask them if they’d be willing to share their personal experience in this area and how they were able to effort the change within themselves and buff the muscles of the qualities they needed to be successful.

Say you want to get out of debt, who do you know had a challenge in this area and is now is debt-free? Ask them specifics on what they did each day to make the switch. From that conversation you’ll find that the top qualities that made them successful are within you.  You simply need to effort them every day to come into existence in your life.

This process need not be hard - yet what it does require is determination, commitment, and again, vulnerability. Being vulnerable enough to ask for help when you know you need it.

Trust me, in that vulnerability a beautiful quality begins to emerge naturally  and that quality is your inner strength and power which once it’s found and brought to light, never ever leaves you.

Enjoy your week!