Metaphysical Matchmaker Archives - Asking a Man Out

Is It A Good Idea To Ask A Man Out?

Is It True That Men Like To Be The One To Pursue?

Conventional wisdom says “No, it’s the man’s job to do the pursuing” but in the modern world we can nudge them a little bit. Guys have of tough time of it always having to pursue and get rejected a good deal of the time. I think that if a man is showing some interest you can go ahead and try one of these techniques.

Don’t actually use the word “date” or “go out with me.”  You don’t want to sound too serious. You can always say something like “I’m going to be in your area for a meeting, would you like to meet for a drink?” A drink can turn into a dinner or a whole evening if things are going well.

You can also ask him for advice. If he is a computer whiz for example or knows a lot about cars and you are in the market to buy one, then you can always offer to buy him a drink for his help.

So, subtlety is the key. I don’t suggest coming on like a man and flat out asking him for a date. You can suggest a drink or doing something together without seeming like you are the aggressor or chasing him.

I still believe that the man likes the challenge and the hunt and if it comes too easy, he might lose interest quickly. A man is biologically hardwired to do the chasing.  And as far as who pays for what, if the man asked you out, then let him pay. If you suggest an outing, then you should pay