Vibrational Thoughts Archives - At the Flip of a Switch

Dear Readers: This week I am writing to you in second person (as I know some of you can relate to this and hopefully it will help you if you are going through something similar) depicting personal emotions and feelings of what has been going on in my heart. I wanted to share with you the emotions I had been feeling and how I am redirecting my own personal and powerful vibrational thoughts to move on from a disappointment in love. I’m not saying this is easy and it is a “work in progress” for me. What I am communicating here is that you CAN redirect your vibrational thoughts toward well being. It takes time, refocus, belief and a loving heart to get there, but it is achievable – day by day – minute by minute – second by second.

When I look into my heart, all I see is love – and there is no room for anger, hatred and bitterness. I have accomplished this through forgiveness… The last paragraph is in first person as a very personal note. With a loving heart to all of you:

At the Flip of a Switch

Have you ever had your love life suddenly change by your partner where it feels as if you landed on another planet at the flip of a switch? This unknown switch went off and you’re standing there on Planet X feeling perplexed and asking, “What just happened”? You thought you did everything with only a loving heart and an understanding mindset. You felt gratitude for every moment this person was in your life. Then a switch was flipped and there you are, alone, trying to figure out the whys.

You wonder, was it me? Did I say or do something to hurt this person? Did I not give enough? Did I not understand enough? You feel hurt and confused because this person suddenly wanted out of the relationship. This person just wanted to end it without any logical explanation except “it’s for your own good”. You wonder if there is someone else, but then you know there isn’t. There couldn’t possibly be.

You trusted this person totally and had the utmost faith in their capabilities and integrity. This person promised you they were in it for the long haul – only to turn back. In a million years you would not have thought this person would have done an about face and turn away from you instead of turning toward you in times of need. You never thought this person was a quitter. This person wants to be alone and can no longer feel the emotions of love toward you or others.

You gave your heart totally. You allowed yourself to love unconditionally. You thought you got it right this time and that you both were vibrationally connected and on the same page in life. You offered a helping hand and encouragement and understood the feelings of overwhelm this person was feeling. You knew this person loved you back, but what you cannot understand is why this person would end it – suddenly at the flip of a switch.

What happened to flip this switch you ask? You keep rerunning everything in your head trying to understand why this person wants to be out of your life. You have a hard time sleeping, eating and doing the things you must get done on a daily basis. You can’t keep enough Kleenex in the house and your eyes are red and swollen. You break out in tears without notice and feel as if your tears could cure a drought.  You feel as if your body is so heavy and that there is black ink flowing through your veins. Your heart hurts and it feels as if you have been punched in the gut. The pain won’t leave and you just keep rerunning things in your head trying to understand why.

At their urging and through the unconditional loving heart you have for this person, you have let them go. Through love, you have said goodbye even though you still don’t understand why the switch flipped – one day you think you found true love, the next day it’s gone.

Then you wake up and decide that you really don’t need to know why this person decided to end the relationship. You know that everyone has a choice in life and you must respect those choices. You realize you must put forgiveness in your broken heart for this person in order to truly let go and to heal. You begin to forgive and as each day goes by, eventually you begin to stop rerunning the whys in order to move on in life.

Through forgiveness, you have looked inside your heart and all you see is love. Through forgiveness there is no room for hatred, anger, bitterness and pain. Through forgiveness you no longer need to know about the whys. Through forgiveness you begin to lovingly take steps to move on. Through forgiveness you have let go of what was and what might have been.

With all the love in my heart, I forgive you and wish you well. May you find your happiness and “good days” again. Lovingly, Debbie.