Metaphysical Matchmaker With Marla Martenson

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Marla Answers More of Your Dating Questions:

I’ve Had Three Dates With A guy And He Just Asked Me To Go To Vegas With Him For The Week-end. I’m Not Comfortable Sleeping With Him Yet. How Do I Handle The Room Situation?

My opinion is, don’t travel with a man unless you are going to sleep together. Even if he gets you your own room, it’s not worth the risk of feeling the pressure, being uncomfortable, arguing or him making you feel guilty for his expenditures without getting the bonus of sex. Tell him that you prefer to get to know him better before taking trips together.

I Was Recently In a Situation Where I Was Going To Be Intimate With Someone New, But Neither Of Us Had a Condom. I Am Worried That a Guy Might Think I am Loose If I Carry Condoms With Me. What Is The Best Solution?

Marla’s Answers Your Dating Questions:

He Says He Doesn’t Want More Kids, I Think I Can Change His Mind Though. Should I Risk It?

Just like I mentioned before, don’t think that you are going to change someone. Having children is a huge commitment and if the person you are thinking of getting involved with is not on the same page as you are, then either accept it or move on. I have heard of women getting pregnant even though the man told her that he does not want more kids or trying to trap a man into getting married because they are pregnant. What a disaster that is. The man feels betrayed and resentful and the relationship will probably end and then society has another child from a broken home.

I’ve Been Told I Am Too Honest. Isn’t It Good To Speak Your Mind And Let A Man Know What Your Opinion Is On Things?

These days’ women are more educated, independent and opinionated. We love to speak our minds. Men like an intelligent lady but they also still enjoy being the man and giving their advice and help to their woman. My husband loves the fact that I am intelligent and successful but he still loves to have the traditional role as being the man in the relationship. “I’m the man of the house” he proudly tells me. So that means, he wants to watch out for me, make important decisions and give me advice, not so much the other way around. It is important for a man to know that his advice and opinion is respected and listened to. As women, it’s okay to not sound off on everything that comes to our mind.