Metaphysical Matchmaker Archives - Online Dating

A Dozen Online Dating Do’s And Don’ts

Dating online is huge these days. Millions of people are doing it. Some women that I talk to about it seem to have a negative feeling about it. They are often concerned that it could be dangerous or a waste of time. I think that it can be a great place to meet some wonderful men since I have met many happy couples that have met just that way. But there are some “rules” that should be followed to make sure that the experience is a pleasant, effective and safe one.

1.     Put up the best and most recent photo of yourself that you have. Men don’t focus on what you write as long as they like your photo. Don’t use anything too provocative but not too conservative either, I have a friend who put up a photo of her-self wearing a business suit, she had very few responses. Show your figure and wear a big smile.

2.     Less is more when writing your bio. Keep it short and fun. No need to write your whole life story with all of your hopes and dreams, After all, you are a busy woman. You are not sitting home desperate and lonely.

3.     Don’t initiate the first contact. Answering a man’s ad is to pursue him. It is no different than meeting him in a bar or asking him out on a date. Let him initiate and come to you first.

4.     Make sure that your sense of humor comes through on your profile and in your messages.

5.     Don’t even think of misrepresenting your size or age, he will find out and won’t that be embarrassing?

6.     Make sure that your log in name is fun and sexy, not marriage minded or desperate.

7.     Always reply to e-mails within a couple of days.

8.     Don’t volunteer your phone number first.

9.     Block anyone who becomes obsessive or annoying immediately.

10.  If he doesn’t ask you out within four e-mails, delete him and go on the next.

11.  Never e-mail a man a second time of he did not respond to your e-mail.

12.  If an e-mail comes with no photo, respond to him that you would love to see a photo. If he refuses, there is a reason and beware.

Don’t believe everything a man tells you. My friend Mae knows a sixty-year old woman named Lena who was in contact on one of the more popular on-line dating sites with a much younger man named Simon who lived in London.  His photo was gorgeous and he had a great sense of humor. He charmed, wooed and flattered her until she believed that they were in love. He told her that he wanted to come and visit her, but he had gone to Nigeria to work and he hurt himself there and had a big hospital bill and could not leave the country until it was paid, he even had the “doctor” call Lena to explain what had happened. Simon said that if Lena would wire 1,000 dollars to Nigeria as soon as possible, he would take the next plane and go directly to her house.   He wanted to build a life with her and was so excited. She sent him the money, only to never hear from him again. When I first heard this story I thought how on earth can a mature woman be so naïve? I understand how women can fall into a trap because they are so desperate and lonely to be with someone. And that is exactly what these type of men prey on. So keep your wits about you. If someone seems too good to be true, or asks you for money, run in the other direction! Also, opening up contact with men in other states or countries is just setting yourself up for heart break and frustration. You will be better off finding someone who is geographically desirable.