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Releasing Resistance

Honor where you are right now, appreciate yourself and the situation for ‘what is’, and with that love, you will move mountains.

In the field that I work in, from my view, resistance gets a bad rap.

Many folks in the industry give-off the message that if you’re facing resistance of any kind, you need to bust right through it. That if you’re stuck it’s because of your own doing. And if you’re afraid to move forward through the block of resistance, there must be something wrong with you and your will isn’t strong enough.

Now I know that I’m generalizing but at the core of many messages ‘out there’, this is what folks tend to take away from trying to change their situations.

Yet, the best advice I ever received about resistance came from one of my first coaches who coached me through some major resistance I was facing – and helped me see that if resistance is present, a real need usually exists.

That statement alone shifted everything because I was able to breathe, honor myself and the resistance I was facing, and allow it to be there – and uncover the real need - rather than hitting it with a stick telling it to go away.

What happens is – when your soul is ready to emerge to another level of growth and evolution, resistance will come up with a vengeance.

Resistance comes in all forms. It will shut you off from receiving new information that you really need to move forward. It will hold you back from doing something that you really yearn to do, yet will show you all sorts of evidence for all the reasons you can’t or shouldn’t do it. And it will also try to prevent you from taking the steps you really need to take because it wants to keep you right where you are – “safe”.

Yet, resistance isn’t bad – it’s just a protection mechanism that is keeping you handcuffed in discontent and frustration because the real suffering is not allowing yourself to accept ‘what is’. And the best thing I’ve learned to do with resistance is: accept it, honor it, uncover the need that exists, and then tap-into your soul for the Truth about what is really going on.

The truth is – if you’re stuck in a place where you want to move forward – or have goals that you want to reach – yet what you’ve done in the past isn’t working anymore – then the great news is – your resistance is a gift.

Your resistance is a gift because the stuck-ness and handcuffs that you feel are keeping you back, are just trying to protect you from emerging to another level on your growth path.

So if you’re in a place where you’re yearning to move forward – to broaden your horizons, to take some big leaps, but are stuck and don’t know why- my best advice is to accept where you are, appreciate how the resistance is trying to serve you, honor the need for safety and security, and then follow what your heart longs to do, not your head!