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What Is A Soul Mate?

Since writing the book “Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting,” Often in interviews I am asked the question, “What is a soul mate?”  Is the word over used? Does it really mean anything? I have even had a few people tell me that they don’t believe in soul mates. I tend to be partial to the term because for me it really describes a connection that we have with someone. I find it to be a very powerful word. I believe that soul mates are life partners, close friends, co-workers, pets, or anyone who influences your life in one way or another. A soul mate is here to teach us something and may or may not be with us throughout our lifetime. So many of us are searching for our soul mate yet many of us don’t have a clear understanding of what a soul mate is. We all know the clichés about love at first sight and feeling that we know someone from a past life. Our perception of a soul mate is often based on movies, television, books and fairy tales. We love to imagine that magical feeling and experience of finding our soul mate. The problem often arises because romantic love ultimately falls short of that ideal. In romantic love, our feelings are dependent upon what we receive in return. We must remember that what we are seeking is unconditional love and more often than not, we not only don’t get it, but don’t give it either. A soul mate can challenge us to a higher standard, it can teach us patience and lead us to unconditional love.

Being with your soul mate does not necessarily mean that you are going to be in bliss, doing everything the same and thinking the same. You soul mate could be pushing some of your buttons and vice versa. I definitely see where I need to grow and expand by being with my husband who I do consider one of my soul mates. I always tended to have a big mouth and just say whatever I feel with almost no filter. I really needed to get a handle on that. He challenges me in that area because his buttons get pushed and he gets really sensitive with comments, observations or opinions on my part so I am learning to monitor what I say which is a good thing since I tend to talk too much. It is training me unbeknownst to him to be more selective with my comments in general. So, where we are so happy being with each other and would not want to be apart, we also drive each other crazy on occasion with our personality flaws that need some attention. Another soul mate for me is my dog Daphne. She made her transition in April of 2007 after almost 17 years with me. We were so close and communicated on a very deep level with absolute unconditional love that I was transformed by her presence. We still have a deep connection even though she is not here in the physical.

 I’ll bet you have friends that you had an immediate connection with from the word hello and have developed a very close and meaningful relationship. This sense of immediate connection arises from unconscious or soul memories of previous loving experiences. The metaphysical definition of a soul mate is someone you knew in a past life.  A soul mate is then someone with whom we have shared many past life experiences. If you look back on all of the people that you have shared loving experiences, it becomes very clear that we are not limited to just one soul mate for our lifetime or for eternity.

Most soul mates are predestined before you were born. Not all soul mate relationships are meant to be harmonious and not all soul mate relationships are meant to be long term. Soul mates are our soul family, the ones we do have many lifetimes and experiences with who help us grow and create and dissipate karma. A soul mate is someone you are close to at a soul level, and with whom you have had many shared experiences in different lifetimes, in various kinds of relationships.

Soul mates can create very happy marriages as they are working on similar life lessons and projects in this lifetime. Since they have been friends for lifetimes they might need each other to complete a work or mission. Soul mates can experience a stable connection like a brother or sister type of rapport.

Twin Flames

I only recently learned about twin flames. I find it a fascinating subject. The term is often confused with that of soul mates and the two are very different. Twin flame reunions are the most fulfilling relationships we can have.  It is more intense than any other union. Twin flame couples are extremely rare. A twin flame is literally the other half of our soul. In the beginning we were created in God in an ovoid white-fire-spirit-light, the soul was split like the atom into two identical parts each with the same identical soul blueprint. We each only have one, after being split the two go their separate ways, incarnating over and over gathering human experiences before coming back together. When twins get together it is for some kind of spiritual work. When twin flames reunite, they experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening.

Karmic Relationships

Karmic relationships are where a person owes you a karmic debt or you owe them from a former life. The relationship will often end when the debt is paid. All relationships are for mutual personal evolution. You may be in a karmic relationship if you feel drained physically, emotionally or financially.